Not Much Has Changed: A Look at the Past Decade

Decade. The word itself evokes a million memories and a zillion other emotions.

Setbacks. Sacrifices. Failures. Compromises.

Achievements. Victories. Learnings. Experiences.

The past ten years have brought opportunities for me to savour it all. Or so it seems.

In 2009, I was working at an entry-level position, miserable with the fact that despite my MBA degree I was still stuck with sitting at the reception desk, dealing with incessantly ringing phone lines and misplaced courier deliveries.

Ten years later, I have not only changed jobs and careers but my entire life. And yet, it feels as if nothing much has changed.

I am still single.

I am still living with my parents.

I am still struggling to find a steady income to sustain myself without having to depend upon my parents to help me with finances.

I still love mint chocolate.

I am still overweight.

Ten years later, I am still regaling my friends with stories of full-grown men who address me as ‘my princess’ within five minutes of us exchanging our first message.

I am still enjoying the pleasures of small luxuries like late-night chats with Mom or a cup of evening tea with Dad.

I am still encouraged to weave whimsical dreams and chase them, without worrying about who is putting food on the table.

Not much has changed. Except for the part that I am older, but not any wiser! I guess no matter how many decades go by, this is one thing that doesn’t change for any of us. The ability to prove ourselves idiots is timeless; with every new mistake being more ridiculous than the last!

The world has begun to call me a Writer and Author rather than a Senior Executive or Assistant Manager. I am known not by my designation on my business card (which was Associate Director of Sales, when I last had a visiting card) or the organisation I work for but rather by who I am.

Who am I today, you ask?

I myself don’t know; for I am still exploring, experimenting, learning. Living.

What do I fill my days with is something I can answer with surety.

I write. I dream. I teach. I colour. I laugh. I create. I live.

Not much has changed though. I still count my achievements as I did before, although the achievements are no longer about closing yet another hard-to-negotiate deal but about having written something. Instead of waking up to calls from the security guard informing me that the entire housekeeping team did not turn up for their shift, I now wake up to ‘Hey, I read that article/story/blog post you wrote and you know what? I loved it.’

Instead of explaining to my boss why I did not meet the month’s sales figures, I now explain to fellow readers why a particular book is worth their time. No prizes for guessing which is more fun!

Not much has changed though. Sure, I no longer dream of being the head of the Sales Department. No longer do I receive trophies for achieving 110% of my sales targets. And neither do I wonder what it would be like if I were to be whimsical and impractical, and not rational and sensible. No longer do I wistfully wish that I would write again, or that I could quit my job and sit in bed and read all day. No more do I desire to be crazy or courageous enough to stop doing what makes me miserable and instead do what makes me happy.

I am very much who I was a decade ago, albeit with two solo-authored books to my name.

I am still racked with self-doubts.

I am still winning awards, albeit for my writing now.

I still wonder, though. I wonder what you would think of this post.

I still dream, though. I dream of writing a novel someday.

I still desire to be crazy. Crazy enough to take on new challenges every day.

I still wish for courage. Courage to walk on more untrodden paths and seek new learnings that would make me a better individual.

After all, it’s only been ten years, and as is evident, nothing much has changed.


What was your decade like? Have you also changed careers or your entire life? Do you find what I did challenging? Share your thoughts and feedback with me using the comment box below.


“This post is a part of ‘DECADE Blog Hop’ #DecadeHop organized by #RRxMM Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul. The Event is sponsored by Glo and co-sponsored by Beyond The Box, Wedding Clap, The Colaba Store and Sanity Daily in association with authors Piyusha Vir and Richa S Mukherjee”

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125 thoughts on “Not Much Has Changed: A Look at the Past Decade

  1. Well, I loved my corporate job and have taken almost this entire decade to come to terms with the fact that I may never be able to get back to it. But I have also fallen in love with what and who I am today. Your post resonates on so many levels. Especially the fact that we are still allowed to make mistakes. Congratulations Piyusha for your book. I am waiting to lay my hands on that one. Loads of wishes for a successful and happy life.
    P.S. – I may be married for a decade and share this really good bond with my husband. But all that I crave for in life is to be able to make my parents proud of me. And you my friend are rocking at that !

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  2. Piyusha, I can absolutely relate to your writing. To some extent we treaded the same path. Just another day was fantastic. Even my book Minor Characters Major Stories was published by readomania shots. In spite of so many achievements something is missing. Hope both of us find the missing link soon.

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    1. Hi Mahesh, Thank you so much! Glad you liked Just Another Day. Heartiest congratulations for your Ebook. Will definitely pick it up soon. Look forward to your reading Dashavatar too. I don’t think there is anything missing. We just have to start appreciating what we already have, while striving for more too. I really am glad that our writing is growing each day and hope we may continue on this path of learning and exploration always. Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

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  3. Sometimes you feel that time hasn’t passed and nothing much has changed but there are differences in yesterday and today. I wish you the very best in the next decade hope it’s a fun-filling one for you.

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  4. You are much more than what you were before 10 years. There is no judging criteria for self development. We grow with our experiences. And you have a lot of work experience by now 🤪 which is actually great. Authoring two books sounds nothing to you ? 😳 and you say you are the same !

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    1. Hahahahaha! It’s not nothing, of course! It’s something that I’ve worked towards, and I am glad to have got where I am today. But it feels as it nothing has changed – I am still me, and I will still continue to explore myself. 🙂 Of course, we are more than what we were 10 years ago and it gladdens me to read your comment. It is important to acknowledge the growth too. Thank you so much for the encouragement and support. Truly means a lot.

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  5. Hey Piyusha! I have heard of you earlier but this is the first time I read and am sold. Blending seriousness of walking through a decade with lightheartedness was refreshing. Eager to read more of your posts and books. Winning the second would be great, if not it would still be read later.

    I wish the telepathic system work sometimes 😉

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    1. Aww! It is so sweet of you to say all that. Made my day, really. All the best for the blogging contest. Look forward to you reading it. 😀
      Telepathic systems work fabulously when sending good wishes and love. I just sent some your way. Did you get it? 🙂

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  6. We change, we mature, yet so much of what we are remains the same. I loved the way you penned the post. Congratulations on an amazing journey. Not many have the courage to follow their dreams. Wishing you the very best.

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  7. Sometimes, a lot of things seem to be change..but still some things do not seem to fundamentally change, know?…I too felt that in spite of so many changes for me in the last decade…
    all the best for this decade! 🙂

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  8. You have a very creative mind. Hahaha. I also believe in doing what i love and if it comes with so many achievements, who would do a corporate job. I wish your dream of a novel comes true soon and I would love to read it. Please make that a reality soon.
    — rightpurchasing

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    1. Thank you so much! Hopefully, soon. Meanwhile, I already have two books out, one of which is available as a paperback too. Please do check them out. Would love for you to read them. Thank you for reading and commenting. 🙂

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  9. The best change had been your designation as a writer that you have achieved and yes somethings never change in decades and even in a lifetime like eating chocolates for me!
    Wish you loads of luck in the coming years.

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  10. I loved your post, especially your writing style and a totally different view of the gone by decade. It was quite refreshing to read something different, how some things never change in life but we majorly like to talk about things that have changed over the years. And I miss those late-night chats with my mom. Enjoyed reading your post, wish you a rocking year ahead!

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  11. Wow such an honest and straight from heart post Piyusha. you had an amazing journey and achieved a lot during last decade..many congrats for that..and I felt that you are so lucky to feel your life the same as it was decade before especially living with parents..for me, lot has changed and I really missed those days..I completely agree that we all should try to focus on things that make us happy in life. I am glad that you had chosen that path and you are enjoying that ride with great success and happiness.

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  12. I was wondering what eloquent comments I could give and I came up with only one thing: I know what you mean when you say nothing has changed(when infact everything has changed). Like you I am still the same dreamy-eyed girl, still making to-do lists, still living on Bangalore and still wondering what my life is about or what am I doing. It is an ongoing process.. we’ll get there or maybe the journey will just continue till the end

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  13. A lighthearted tale of many seriousnesses, your take on the prompt is refreshing and honest. And while I’ve heard of you, this is the first I’ve come across your writing, and it is a joy! I plan to buy (or win, teehee) your book soon, and I’m excited to read more!

    Thank you for the morning smiles. And thank you for keeping it real!

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    1. Thank you, Pavi! All the very best for the contest. I hope you do read it soon, whether by winning or buying. (wink, wink) But more than that, I hope you enjoy reading it too. Thank you again for reading and commenting. So glad you enjoyed it.

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  14. That’s a great summary of a decade gone by, and when this comes from a well-known writer then I must say I would love to have this no change in my life.
    I loved this line that I’m exploring, experimenting, learning. Living. this is the crux of life, never stop doing anything or learning new things.
    And when you say I write. I dream. I teach. I colour. I laugh. I create. I live. I fell in love with the writer once again.

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  15. Wow I loved your post. Conversational with a proper dose of humour. I agree nothing has changed, only you are happy with what you do and your achievements. Hope the next decade also does not bring many changes apart from those that make you happy and successful.

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  16. That was such a honest post from the depths of the heart. Only a few people can laugh on themselves and share it too. Loved your humorous style. It think all this makes everyone fall in love with your writings.

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  17. “I write. I dream. I teach. I colour. I laugh. I create. I live”, this line shows the your days are full of all colors of life, what else one could ask for, to enjoy the life to the fullest, I found you the luckiest one as you are blessed to spend eve and night with your parents on their chai and chit chat, Not only your achievements I can see through out the decade but also come to know about your grounded personality, when you say nothing much has changed in past decade, way to go girl!!!! Best wishes Piyusha yo

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    1. Thank you so much, Archana! The way you say I have a ‘grounded personality’ gives me such joy because I would never want to get complacent or arrogant. So your comment gives me reassurance. Truly means a lot. Thank you!

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  18. You dream you learn you create you write and you life.. these are the best anyone can do. Besides being an author !! And best you spend wonderful times with your parents!! Great going!! Happy writing !!

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  19. Piyusha – you have come a long way. I can’t explain why, but somehow I could really relate to you and feel we will get along well – just a feeling I have 🙂
    Best of luck – may you achieve greater success than ever!

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  20. You’ve come a long way, what a decade for you, give yourself a pat in the back because you did great.

    I guess not everything has to change but something did change especially the way you perceive life.

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  21. “Who am I today, you ask?
    I myself don’t know; for I am still exploring, experimenting, learning. Living.”
    Just amazing!!! With such a viewpoint what can stop you from fulfilling your dreams..Loved your post and style of writing…Best wishes for the future..

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  22. Hi Piyusha! I am reading you the very first time. But I felt while ending the post, I know you as a person. You are very honest about who you are! I loved your honesty. I believe sometimes go with the flow is the best because nature doesn’t decide anything wrong for you. I loved your journey dear! More power to you. Best wishes!

    Deepika Mishra

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  23. Piyusha, I love your writing style and having witnessed your humour in person as well, I’m a huge fan now. I really enjoyed reading your journey in the past decade and loved how you kept it conversational and witty! I actually felt as if you were narrating it all to me in person.

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    1. Prerna, you made me chuckle out loud with that first line. I am thrilled to read you enjoyed reading it. Looking forward to you picking up the books too. Ab toh padh lo! Jokes apart, glad you enjoyed the post. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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  24. My sixth sense is very strong and I can do without telepathy 🙂 Just kidding Piyusha. You have jotted down your decade so well. We have grave similarities but against the opposite scenarios. I was married young widowed young and started my career at 40. Kids left home and I was alone. Haven’t got used to the loneliness and I go into depression. Envy you your parents’ company but actually Blee you to continue having them by ur side. You have a long way to go dear…two books?? This is just the beginning. I am 56 and still contemplating writing my book. Cheers to us persevering women!

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  25. You know what? “Exploring, experimenting, learning. Living” is the best thing one can do to. Also, cherish the moments you get to spend with your parents, not everyone gets this privilege, trust me on this. I loved reading more about you and your journey of the last decade, Piyusha and once again, loved how your sprinkled humor at the right spots. Good to connect with you.

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  26. Ability to prove ourselves idiot is timeless…. I so agree with this line.
    2 solo authored books.. is a great achievement. I loved your realistic and candid way of expressing yourself. To be able to do what you love is real happiness.
    Much love
    Deepika

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  27. I will not agree that nothing much has changed in your life. I would rather put it this way; your external has undergone tremendous transformation and your inner self remains the same old. That’s good. You’re lucky. Stay the way you are, not many are lucky enough for that.
    Janaki (@beyond the familiar)

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  28. Every day I wake up, new ideas are born
    I jump out of the slumber, a little rough and torn
    The moment of realization, is eternal and raw
    A child to the core, I am waiting to grow
    Dreams of today and the moments of past
    have kept me so busy, countless miles surpassed
    Judge me some more, for it brings back the smiles
    My story etched in this journey, of countless miles.

    I can relate to your journey of the last decade Piyusha for I am a free bird and rebel at heart. Kudos to the times to come.

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  29. Such honest and candid write-up. The decade gave you the opportunity to explore your passion for writing and you are doing amazing. Life changes in years and remains the same in moments. Best wishes. Loved reading your post.

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  30. I love your post! I relate with do what I’ve always wanted to do, still being single, and finding happiness in little things. Not much has changed, yet a lot has changed, hasn’t it? 🙂
    Would we even be humans without self-doubts? 😉 Best wishes for the decade and the rest.

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  31. Hi Piyusha
    It’s so nice to read you. I’ve seen you around, though and heard of your writing skills as well!
    The post is very realistic and yes, life doesn’t change but somewhere it does too. It’s just the realization that is a little away at times. I liked the fact that you seek happiness in little things. The humorous tone added to the charm of the post. And what did I do in the last decade… Well, there’s whole post up for that! Best wishes for the new decade💐💐

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    1. Oh my gosh! You’re making me feel like a celebrity with all the ‘heard of your writing skills’ talk. Thank you for reading and commenting. Yes, I read your post and even commented 🙂 All the best to you too.

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  32. Such a candid take on the last decade and the highlight is your open and honest admissions about your true self. Its becoming a rarity to admit our doubts and apprehensions to others these days. People like show baazi more and if we talk like this, most of the times, people brand us as incapable people. Ofcourse, this statement is purely based on my own experiences so far and not to criticize anyone.

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  33. Wow two books to your name is indeed an achievement. Why do we tend to see ourselves always climbing the corporate ladder or being physically appealing means being thin or sexy. I have been a plus size for quite sometime and still love mint chocolate. They are droolicious. The best moments of life as described by you is late-night chats with Mom or a cup of evening tea with Dad. I miss those now as I am married and stay in a different state. Continue living your life with what makes you happy nothing else matters.

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  34. Piyusha, I read about you on Readomania and u instantly came across as a very witty person.. First the caricature on your profile, then the cover of ur ebook ‘Just Another Day’ which required reading between the lines too..and it made me download the book instantly and i read it the very same night.. and now “Telepathic Systems are down at present. Please use below box to communicate.” still Laughing out loud.. the same wit comes across your post… the ups and downs.. the joys and sorrows… what looks like an achievement for some is not even worth cherishing for others.. I am sure u must be an amazing Sales head, but u r a stupendous writer, so keep up the good work. And late night chats with mommy is elixir of life.. enjoy it while u have it.. 🙂

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    1. You made my day with that comment, Supriti! Thank you so much for taking the trouble to read too. Means a lot to have you read and appreciate my writing. Hope you will enjoy the new book too. Thank you for visiting my blog. Love, and hugs.

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  35. Such a realistic summary of the last decade. It takes real boldness to bare your heart out. You may feel nothing has changed but you many have changed the world of your readers and well wishers for sure. I really look forward to reading your book soon. The way you have put the words show how experiences have strengthened you over the past decade ..Best wishes and good luck !

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  36. I’m glad you quit the job that did not “spark joy”(as Marie Condo may say) and you followed your heart to become what you are today. Kudos on that. As for “self doubts”…. we are all plagued by that our entire lives. Heck, Arjuna was racked with self doubt before he fought. You have your dreams to back on and your own talent too.

    Cheers,
    Meena from balconysunrise.wordpress.com

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  37. Hi Wandering Soul(Piyusha, I guess!) I loved your piece for some special reasons. The way you beautifully described the changes, little yet they can do huge impact on dreamers like us, is something incredible!! Somewhere, I long to change my life like you, you know? I still get messages from my friends that they loved my writings, but somewhere, I still feel a pain for not being an Assistant Manager despite all my efforts. The way you wrote about the comfort zone we share with our parents, is something made me ached for I am going to leave my home and settling in other city, from next week 😦 Piyusha, if I continue to write what I loved in your piece, this comment box would look like an essay paper, I guess! Enough for now, will connect you for sure. Best wishes for this decade, I wish you a dream-come-true decade ahead! 🙂

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  38. Cliched as it may sound, but if what you are doing is making you happy, then you are successful. It ain’t easy to be on your shoes but you seem to know what you are doing. And that’s all that is needed.
    PS- a lot of people realise much later that joy is to be found in little things. You are wise already, so go ahead and have those chats with your mum and over cups of tea with your dad. 2020 is your year. Rock it

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  39. That is quite the story with every one of us. A decade flies past and we feel a lot has changed…that we have changed. And then there are days when we realise hardly anything has!

    I guess the changes occur like like deposition of sediments on rocks by the sea. Hardly perceptible…until one dat that layer of sediments form a thick covering. A shell. An armour. Inseparable from the substance of the rock itself. The layer becomes the rock.
    The change becomes us! 🙂

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